It's long since I had been looking in for a proper definition, but somehow out of the various answers I have received, (Well to be honest often not received, rather perceived) I realized that people have many different ways of explaining what it feels like being a failure, the pains, the grief’s, the late realizations, etc. But I guess the question stayed unanswered.
I have come across people who said, "Emotional Failure - well it's just a part of life, u need to come across it to enjoy the better side of life as well”. While again others said "What the fuck is this Emotional Failure, I have never seen it ever in my life. It's just the hard work that you need to do to neglect it.”
There are various levels and types of emotional failure. Suffering from a fear of social contact, fear of speaking in public, fear of failure, general states of anxiety, speech impediments, phobias, shyness, contact problems, stress, and similar symptoms are typically some of those.Infact it has often been realized that the emotional failure does lead to other failures as well, failure of commitments, failure of mutual trust and lot more. Again Emotional Failure is not always a cause of grief, think of the innumerable number of couple that breaks up, just because of their emotional rift, and infact happily accept that, for the failure of their relation helps them attain peace. The simplest definition of an "Emotional Failure", rather any failure , that I have found people saying is nothing but the inability to achieve what was expected to be achieved.
Somehow I feel that "Emotional Failure" is infact "giving us a little more time". We always want to partner with people and not be a supporter or dependant and on this urge of having a true partnership with people, we never leave aside the "I" factor, after all at the end of the day we all see our own needs. How many of us try to work out a single partnership which we ourselves are not comfortable with, seems like we hate the idea of just stepping out of our emotional comfort zone.
Knowledge has the perishable nature and it needs to be updated every other day but yes-emotional strength is not, infact it does get updated and grows stronger with time. More we start clinging onto it more it gets us clawed, leading to emotional stress, and of course emotional failure at the end. So we all need to be a bit more proactive, move that one extra inch towards each other so as to help ourselves out from what they call an Emotional Failure.
Expecting a few ideas from your end as well...
See you soon.
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Hi sam,
I liked ur blog on so called "emotional failure". yes I admit that it prevails in everybody's heart, mind and soul, even there has been am time when Einstein also suffered form the same syndrome.
He may have been a genius and leading light in the world of physics, but Einstein was a dismal failure at relationships. He left behind a trail of broken marriages and affairs in pursuit of his first love - science.
The image we have of Einstein is of a twinkly- eyed, droopy-moustached old eccentric. But by the time be achieved universal renown, unknown to an admiring world, he had clocked up two failed marriages, at least one affair and had fathered an illegitimate child. His recently released letters reveal a human being not so unlike many lesser mortals. The man who predicted how the gravitational force of the sun bent a star's a light was prey to all the normal earthly desires and, by the end of his life, had confessed himself an "emotional failure".
Also despite his academic success, Einstein's last letters reveal his sense of "emotional failure". "I can love humanity, but when it comes to close relationships, I'm a horse for single harness. I failed twice, rather disgracefully." As for marriage: "An unsuccessful attempt to make something lasting out of an incident. All marriages are dangerous."
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